Karl Jantzen: ur husband and childrennow u are in other family ur 1st family shud understand that
Jamika Gregorio: My husband comes first. Period.
Ofelia Kieck: Details-No children, he works for the government, she is going to school and does not work, they do not have much bank, they own a house together that has very little equity and they own two vehicles. There is no 3rd person in this picture. He is an abusive functioning alcoholic and there has been many fights in the past 3 years. They have been married 12 years. Things came to a head this weekend when she left to go and visit friends in another state. He called her and told her it's over. He cancelled the credit cards while she was away. So how does she proceed? She wants to stay in the house until the end of the year, as she has no place to go. Can he kick her out or do they both get to live in the house at least temporarily? I am sure that at least one of you have been in her predicament....how does! this work?...Show more
Saran Stealy: you, your husband, your children come first. then all others after.
Loriann Carrigan: if i had to choose it would be the family i was born into because come thick or thin they're more likly to stick with you than a wife and any children you may have with her. the divorce statistics are evidence enough for that. and your kids .... they'll rarely see you and will come to resent you no matter how great OR horrible of a father you are. the system is rigged. it's anti-male out here. i'm under no illusions about it either. we live in a broken culture with a very weak sense of family and little to no sense of community. what most people think of as friends is merely ones acquaintances....Show more
Arleen Bussing: yeah the 1st fam on his side is nothing to us at this point, for pretty much the same reason (they were talking sh*t about thier son and i stood up for him and it just snowballed from there) my 1st fam is high on the! list but of course the family i choose is more important to m! e. however if i didn't have kids i'm not sure, i honestly don't know if i would put my spouse over my mom.
Penelope Armond: My 'second' family is more important, but I include my sister in with that too.
Zelma Casebier: EDIT: He is verbally abusive, not physical. He gets drunk and picks fights, starts screaming at her and calling her a fkng Bytch. This happens once a week when he is highly intoxicated. Then the next day he is quiet. He is very quiet and does not communicate well with anyone when he is straight. He needs to drink to communicate and when he does, it is abusive. THIS IS NOT A GOOD HUSBAND.
James Langmyer: good for you mate... spouse and kids must always come first...
Veta Slicker: My second family for sure. First family wasn't the best for me.
Elsie Resner: Your chosen family is your #1 priority and the family that you were born into needs to consider that when they approach you. Unless you come from one of those families where n! o one has ever had a successful marriage and all the babies are from different absent people, then they should understand.
Hunter Osterberger: Are there any other single moms on this page? Or maybe divorced/step-moms? I'm having a really hard time dealing with my ex bringing his girlfriend(s) around my daughter when i repeatedly asked him not to. How can i handle this? Is there any legal action i can take? I know that it doesnt help that ive been single for.over a year (since the divorce) and i.dont bring men around my daughter. He lies to me about her being around and i had to find out from my innocent 2 yr old that he had a gf after he sent her home with her nails painted by her. I told her that her nails were so pretty n she said "lauren did them". Here is another twist... he is refusing to let me meet her. I want to know who my child is around... and he doesnt want me to meet her because since hes been dating her he sends me multiple text messages per da! y/week asking for sex, flirting, sending me unwanted dirty pictures, et! c. I have kept and printed out ALL of them since january. So he knows that i could potentially show her and their relationship would be over. THIS IS THE PROBLEM! He gets these girlfriends..hides it from me...me daughter tells me...and he continues to harrass me about sex and stuff. After the girlfriends find out that he is a scumbag they leave him. which is why i dont want my daughter getting attatched to these girls and liking them because as soon as they find out what he does to them (the same things he did to me during our marriage with other women) then they will be out of her life.....Show more
Vickie Sterbenz: I personally believe in those gut instincts. Usually, if you will look a little closer they are somehow based on facts that are happening in your life. I believe instinct is God given and that if we listen to them and keep our eyes open, the truth will come out. Problem is sometimes it is more comfortable to ignore them and go along with the lie. I to! o have used my instincts in my relationship with my husband and kids. I also use it as a registered nurse. There have been times I have passed a patient's room and the "little voice" tells me they need looking after. It has not failed me yet. Thanks for sharing....Show more
Georgia Dees: The most important to me is my 2nd Family. They are the most important because I did choose them. I choose my wife because I found her and feel in love with her. My kids are even more important then my wife. We made them so how can they not be the most important people in my life. I did not ask to be a part of my 1st family and honestly some of them I would not choose as friends. If your family does not understand that then that is their problem. You have to do the best for your 2nd family. They are the choosen ones :)...Show more
Marcia Cheathan: No you cannot. What he does on his own time with his daughter is his business. Unless you can prove that some sort of abuse is ! occurring there is nothing you can do. Not liking it on your part is n! ot grounds for anything.
Lindsey Zanardi: He can't legally kick her out. It's her house just as much as it is his. On that same token, she can't kick him out. Again, it's BOTH of their house, and both of them are entitled to stay there.But if he's abusive, i have no idea why she would make the choice to go back to live in that house knowing that he will be there waiting for and living with her.She's gotten an opportunity many people in abusive relationships don't. She got out easily. Personally, if i were in her position, i would file for divorce, ask a family member or friend if i could stay with them temporarily, and then call the police to request an escort to go back to the house to pick up my belongings.He'll just escalate. I get that he's not a good husband. Even more of a reason for her not to go back to that house to live while he's there....Show more
Majorie Chester: 2nd family obviously. they are the family that you help start and that is your responsi! bility foremost. Just let the others know you love them
Pearlie Medora: I think in a marriage, you usually fall into a routine or a pattern. Even the slightest deviations from those patterns can raise a small flag. Something as "meaningless" as your husband smiling and laughing more than usual can seem suspect under the right circumstances.The same goes for children. You know them. You sense when something is amiss..But instinct can be wrong if you project your own feelings onto someone else-- women do this. They like a man and assume the man feels the same and don't read his signals....Show more
Cletus Crotts: I agree. We have them for a reason and most times are correct when we follow them.
Asa Soho: Your 2nd family is always the most important! Your mom and dad had a chance to make their own family and raise their children. You should be allowed the same. Don't let them make you feel bad.
Brittanie Zakutney: i think your are exactly right and f! eel the same way especially when it comes to our spouse and children ca! use who knows them better then we do but with other issues to cause i've learned the hard way on that one so i've learned to go on my first instinct and sometimes i'm right but sometimes i've been wrong to but still i go on my first one
Francis Stickle: As long as they don't have criminal records that designate they are not allowed around children... nothing you can do. You are the primary caregiver. You are the woman she will pattern. Whatever influence she gets from women she meets a dozen times (or less, right?) will amount to how attached she is to the cashier at the grocery store. Pretty clear why you didn't stay married to this man. And millions of women feel exactly the same. I know a young couple who divorced with small children and made a deal that neither would introduce their dates to the kids. Two years later, the dad can date at will except for his 4 days a month and he gets furious if the Mom dates anyone ever (besides those 4 days) because he can't con! trol who the guy is. Nothing fair about that arrangement!...Show more
Toshiko Reimers: teenagers communicate. He could utilising you to come back at his ex. If the new child sees you and mom asks what they did, he needs the ex to "sense" some thing different than indifference in direction of him. he's to no longer fantastic if he has a 4th grader and is not any longer in a actual courting along with her mom. So if I have been you, i might step gently and not take something heavily. He could be searching for somebody to mom his new child for him or some thing no longer everlasting, like "friends with advantages", "play residing house", etc, and needs every physique to be comfortable with it, particularly if his friends and family participants are attempting to push him to pass out and meet somebody, etc. do no longer take it to coronary heart, he could be attempting to delight family participants that he's shifting on, or he's utilising the new child and family partici! pants to start a love/hate with ex, or he's making an attempt to apply ! you for some thing else. If this replaced into the 1st time you're gaining knowledge of concerning to the new child, then there is a few thing no longer nicely suited with that. He could have pronounced his ex and new child, then asked the variety you felt approximately assembly his family participants and new child. this could have allowed you to say no if it would make it too quickly, too uncomfortable, or a deal breaker (like in case you do no longer decide for an ex/new child interior the image). merely dropping the bomb on you and looking out forward to you to come to a decision what he potential approximately it, isn't cool! He could admire that, yet he did no longer. no longer cool. he's gonna save doing this, and by potential of this I advise, no longer sharing somewhat significant issues and then merely letting you detect it out on your man or woman (ie. tom catting, alcoholism, drug behavior, illegitimate toddlers, debt, merely decide for intercourse, etc) He alre! ady has new child help funds, and different duties, he could be seeing 2 or 3 different females besides you asserting "sorry I could watch my 4th grader, could %. them up, could take them to etc,etc,etc," you're able to like him, yet you do no longer in all probability comprehend him in any respect....Show more
Ronnie Sardi: I see many questions here on cheating and how the one who is suspious has a "feeling" that something is going on with the other one. But they are taught not to trust thier own instincts so they ignore these feelings only to have a wall drop on them later. I have been married for 31 years and have learned to trust instincts in my relationship with my hubby and when I am dealing with my children. What do you think?????
Nicolas Cooley: If you're religious, the Bible has a quote in there that says that you put your 2nd family before your first family.I will tell you right now, I'm in the SAME spot, and as hard as it is, it is better for YOU,! your 2nd family, to make sure you continue to put them first.
Ma! rco Stolarz: If her name is on the deed and the loan, he can't kick her out. She is part owner.I know a really good divorce lawyer in FL. I use him and he has helped outa few friends as well. Email me and I'll give you his contact info
Anton Waln: HERE'S THE PROBLEM: Y. O. U.It is absolutely NONE of your business who your ex is with or what he does during his parenting time with his child. There is no legal action that you can take to make him tell you what he is doing in his personal life or give you updates as to who he is dating.What you need to do is MOVE ON, get over the relationship that you no longer have with your ex and start FOCUSING ON THE RELATIONSHIP YOU HAVE WITH YOUR DAUGHTER.Do you think for one second that he is dwelling on what you are doing with your child whilst you have her? Do you think that he's constantly wondering who you are with when you don't have your child? Stop focusing and dwelling on what your 'EX' is doing, he's not doing the same for! you. You're wasting your TIME and showing your child that you are absolutely MISERABLE with the fact that HER FATHER is now a happy man. Your child is going to grow up, have a mind of her own, and be able to think for herself. And GUESS WHAT MAMA! She'll see you for the spiteful and jealous woman that you are and she will KNOW that her DAD did his BEST to keep her from allowing you to destroy the balance that he has in his life with her....Show more
Lynn Melbourne: Excuse me Tina... but this is marriage and divorce section... I believe that you want what ever section (dating and singles perhaps?) that the teenagers are going to for whining about thier teenageitis.... it would be nice if you could let the adults answer these adult questions hon...
Ginny Trickett: If BOTH names are on the mortgage, then they BOTH are entitled to live there.He cannot legally kick her out.If he pays the bills, he does have the legal right to cancel the credit cards.You have been ! married 12 years, so you are entitled to alimony - in Florida it's call! ed Maintenance - for at least two years. Hopefully that will get you through school....Show more
Rachell Meese: well alot of times when your young or new at the whole relationship thing, emotions and unrealistic fantasies block your view of whats going on and what your instinct is telling you.
Sylvie Snetting: Well I'm a newlywed with no children so my 1st family is still a big part of my life but my husband is now the man I see everyday so he has recently became my 1st priority.
Ramon Dahlheimer: you child is first and you chose to leave that first family for the second. The second family is always priority all others are secondary. I had my whole family mad when i married my wife because they didnt like her. I chose her over them and i would do it everytime no question.
Rosalba Lingner: No. He's allowed to have anyone he wants around his children without your approval as long as the people aren't a danger to themselves or others. As the child's f! ather he is allowed to make that sort of determination. Painting the child's fingernails is not dangerous. Agreed, he's a dog for sending you texts, pictures,etc while in a relationship but you didn't nip it all in the bud from the get go. You are lording it over him like a blackmailer. I see why the marriage ended. You BOTH need to move on but you especially....Show more
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